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Friday, 19 July 2013

Shame: the perk of being a women???

so Muslim friend shared the message below:

To all my Muslim sisters...
 
Sometimes,
I want to open my hijab,
and show the world,
that I too,
am beautiful in the people’s definition.

But,
deep down here,
in my little heart,
I know that beauty is by definition,
...
a mystery.
and it is forever more rewarding,
to be beautiful in God’s eyes.

Sometimes,
I want to wear ruffled dresses and tight jeans,
show off what I really look like,
under those baggy shirts and loosely fitted pants,
make a statement,
that I too,
have a figure and worth looking at.

But,
I know better,
to avoid entering the world of men’s imagination,
for I love my future husband,
and I am ashamed,
what should be his, has already been unveiled by others.

Sometimes,
I want to show the world,
the other side of me,
the bubblier, bolder, and crazier me.
put myself on display,
for everyone to see,
to be desired, and admired upon.

But,
I know that eyes are not just eyes,
seeing is not just seeing,
image and respect are gained,
shame and humility deserve a better place.
 
The trigger here is how Shame is being promoted as if it is a virtual quality women should seek.
But then sycronicity provided a truly empowered reply:
 

We Weren’t Born with Shame | Brenne Brown

"Our culture teaches us about shame—it dictates what is acceptable and what is not. We weren’t born craving "perfect" bodies. We weren’t born afraid to tell our stories. We weren’t born with a fear... of getting too old to feel valuable. We weren’t born with a Pottery Barn catalog in one hand and heartbreaking debt in the other. Shame comes from outside of us—from the messages and expectations of our culture. What comes from the inside of us is a very human need to belong, to relate."

"I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame" , Brene Brown


Photo: We Weren’t Born with Shame | Brenne Brown

"Our culture teaches us about shame—it dictates what is acceptable and what is not. We weren’t born craving "perfect" bodies. We weren’t born afraid to tell our stories. We weren’t born with a fear of getting too old to feel valuable. We weren’t born with a Pottery Barn catalog in one hand and heartbreaking debt in the other. Shame comes from outside of us—from the messages and expectations of our culture. What comes from the inside of us is a very human need to belong, to relate."

"I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame" , Brene Brown

Photo: Georgia Brizuela -  www.documentingdelight.com

☾ Elena Zubulake ~ Occupy Menstruation
Sweet Earth Wisdom


 Photo: Georgia Brizuela - www.documentingdelight.com

☾ Elena Zubulake ~ Occupy Menstruation
Sweet Earth Wisdom